“HIS homemaker wife wants to work but hydraulic consultant C. Nadarajah is dead set against it.
‘My kids are still of school-going age, and if both my wife and I are out at work, who’s going to take care of their daily needs and make sure they wake up on time for classes in the morning?’ says the 52-year-old.
They have two daughters, aged 19 and 17, and a 16-year-old son.
He says his wife wants to get a job now that the children are older.
But he retorts: ‘I don’t buy that as a reasoning, because there’s nothing better than having a mother around to bring up the kids. If she’s out at work, and I’m out of town, the kids will go haywire.’”
Read that chauvinism on Straits Times’s ‘Insight’ section. That is the kind of attitude that feminists revolt against. There is so much substantive injustice in the male declaration that woman should stay at home and clean the toilet and take care of the children. It makes a woman sputter and stutter in anger due to speechlessness, at least it leaves me in that state. I am definitely not a feminist- I want a man to earn the bread, to take care of me and leave my paycheck alone so that I can buy Chanel bags, diamond trinklets, to pay for hair treatments, spas, weekly pedicures and manicures… BUT I don’t want to stay at home and take care of kids. Let me re- phrase, I want to do it if it is my choice and because I love my children, I do not want to do it only because some chauvinistic pig tells me to do it. If you want a wife to do that, get a maid! Hire a nanny! These men are taking away a female’s autonomy, as if she has breasts and therefore she must breastfeed right? She has a vagina and therefore she must give me sex?! My goodness! That is so annoying.
A woman, just like a man, has a right to choose her destiny and pursue her dreams. In the course of doing so, she might realise that there are things that are more important than her career. e.g. maternal bond with the children, comfort of her husband, organisation of the household. In that case, it is her right and her choice to re- organise her priorities and give up working. I wonder where do men get the idea that they have a God- given right to lord over women? Then again, they are really odd in that way, they like to brandish their ‘male genitalia’ everywhere, even at the dinner table. Like ‘I have it and therefore I must keep talking about it..you dick-head!’ It is funny and a tad baffling. I don’t hate men. I really don’t but that kind of mentality just bugs me. I actually love them quite a fair bit. Winston is a BEEEG chauvinist and it can be quite endearing at times…but it just bugs me…really does… mmmm…
